Life is stressful if we are being honest. One minute you are controlling your emotions and keeping them in check, the next minute, you are yelling at a strange man in public because he stopped you in the middle of your crash out, to ask for your number. expresses sadness in substantial amount.
When you are in a good mood, you’d probably be sipping a glass of wine while thinking of what business idea to map out next. But then, after a few calculations, you realize that the business would need a huge amount of money you’ve never seen in your life. In a quick anger, you drop the bottle of wine in your hand on the floor, with sighs that could be heard, miles away. Bursts out a laugh of pain and penury.
I personally recommend journaling, to telling someone your problems. Or paying over 50$ for a therapy session. Journaling is the superhero that most of my earthlings sleep on. Not all heroes wear capes; that phrase was invented for “Journaling”. In this generation, we have high rates of mental instability and low rates of employment, so I recommend “journaling”.
Writing down your thoughts, experiences and pains might seem weird, but trust me, it saves you the stress of letting people into your life and knowing things they would use against you. Saying this because I’d judge you for telling me the weirdest stuff you are going through, but I am ‘SAT’ for the drama. Keep your secrets, I beseech you, the same way your secrets were had for you to keep to yourself, is the same way it will be hard for me to keep, if you tell me.
When I was in boarding school, every new term when my mom was shopping for provisions and books for me, she would never fail to get me a diary. I wrote down all I went through in boarding school with names of people who failed to lend their pen or erasers to me. At the close of each term, I’d go back with my diary, and the first thing my mom would do is open my box and take out my diary to read.
There was this senior student that kept pestering me to be her school daughter. And that was her seeking access to my provisions, but I kept declining. It got to a point where she’d come to the class just to bully me. My best friend then would ask when I insulted her, but I’d shrug in confusion, as I was shocked as she was. When my mom read my diary and saw the part I wrote I was bullied by a senior student because I rejected her school – mother offer. She was furious and one time, she asked the school to deliver her into her hands. My mom reacting that way, made me feel safe. Whether or not someone fought for me, writing down my fears, troubles and experiences, liberated me from my clouded mind.
HOW JOURNALING HELPS
First off; it’s free therapy without a session and terrible scribbling. When you journal your problems, you free your mind and give your thoughts a new space to dwell. When you pick up that journal out of anger and tight chest, you won’t even realize you’ve written down 1,000 words. By doing so, your thoughts are refreshed. And you won’t think of murdering the guy who insulted you at the market because you asked for a paper bag.
Journaling helps free your thoughts, the multiple tabs in your brain would be closed to focus on just a tab. You know when you leave too many tabs open on your phone; it starts to malfunction until you swipe off the tabs, to close them and focus on one. The feelng of your overheated phone cooling off in the freezer, because you threw it in there. So, it gives your brain, room to a safe space where you vent; and close over 1000 tabs that you left running wild in your mind. Even if it doesn’t close those tabs, it seals them in a special folder that you’d never revisit again.
It’s like mental purge. It’s just a cheaper way of dealing with your problems.
1. The good thing about Journaling is that you can sell your journal as a story to a movie producer or Author.* Blinking in a million dollars I mean common*, letting off some of your painful memories or experiences for a million dollars or less is a good call to me. Why are you keeping it in your closet anyways? Sell that story and smile to the bank while at it. And the good thing and beauty of selling it off is that you’d be the main character. Seems like a good Netflix series to me.
2. The beauty of journaling is that it makes your mind productive. There are days you feel tired over the load on your neck. You are not just tired from it, but mysteriously pressed by the weight of the world. It keeps you away from people, they might think you are ghosting them, but you are just healing your inner Chucky. It allows you to experience the beauty in solitude, instead of looking like a chimpanzee in a crop top and yellow skinny jean. I’d love to see my problems being turned into a narrative form, makes me feel like Gabrielle Union. I don’t know about you though. I certainly don’t have money to waste on a title called “therapist”. I’d journal down my thoughts.
3. When you know you get angry over certain things, I’d advise you to journal it. When you get disappointed over someone’s actions towards you, Journal it, instead of sending them an epistle on WhatsApp and getting the “K” reply. That’s even worse and embarrassing. Are you even that cheap? * Shakes head in prominent disappointment * you know the anger that comes from hunger? Journaling dictates the mood for you and lets you know that your belly needs filling. You’d realize that it’s not science magic and you can detect your problems without visiting Charles the psychologist.
4. Some of you join gangs and cult to solve problems. Aren’t you just adding salt to injury? Where’s your psycho head at please? If you can’t journal, rob a bank to shop for luxury cars. I feel that’s better. After all this, I bet you know that journaling is cheaper now, except you don’t mind robbing banks to shop or starting a new business so you could launder money to build an expensive social status; that people in remote areas wouldn’t know, who the damn you are. Instead of all this, just get a book and pen stuff down.
Journaling won’t solve your problems but it will make you feel better in a way. Journaling won’t put money in your account; it won’t buy groceries to stick it up at your house. It won’t explain why Sam didn’t reply to your last message, nor will it give you reasons why you were ghosted by the pretty girl you borrowed money from your friends to take out on a date. No it won’t do all that.
But it will keep your mind at peace, it will help your thoughts have a safe place and give it a calm process lane. And it will help you keep your problems to yourself and not tell someone from your class or work place with a loud mouth.
Fellow earthlings, grab that pen today and pen down your problems. And if I ever come across your Journals, I’d read it and tell the whole world how much of a creep you are.
