When it comes to Love, we’ve all been there, if you haven’t, don’t lose hope, or maybe do; you still might not find it. * Intensely prophesy’s in Joseph’s Manual *
If you feel he doesn’t love you, trust he doesn’t. He’s probably with you because he can’t find another fool to deceive. * Laughs profusely in Patience Ozokwor*. You’ve been in the kind of love that keeps you staring at your phone like a grenade you can’t put down, asking a million questions that only your ancestors have answers to, “does he even love me?” We both know he doesn’t, but you are just attracted to red flags. You saw a man with RED FLAGS, but you interpreted it as CARNIVAL. Now you are stuck looking for answers.
Sometimes the answer you are looking for comes in a subtle tone, other times; it’s a waving Red sign that screams “RUNAWAY GIRL, RUNAWAY”. But you insist and stay with him because you found a name for justify his red flags, “NONCHALANT”. “He’s just nonchalant”, you’d say. The fact that you are unsure of his love, means one thing, you know he doesn’t love you. But you are just waiting for someone who is going to give you an advice you’ll never take. Sighs in immense disappointment. Bro just loves the fact that you feed him and consume his bull whacks without complain, I’d do same too if I was Bro.
Signs That He Doesn’t Love you
DISCLAIMER: don’t take my signs seriously, I have never been in love and probably might never find one because I have the same character as that of a goat; no sane person would be willing to endure my animalistic excesses.
- If he finds it easy to burst out “I LOVE YOU” like he’s asking for an extra plate of Jollof Rice with dodo.
Let’s be sincere, it’s hard to tell someone you love that you love them, why? You have a million thoughts in your head. The fear of them not loving you back or calling you a ‘creep’ because you said it too soon. Let’s face it; I mean who says “I love you” after one week if not a creep? Delivering emotional intimacy to you like an Uber Eats employee. Girl, please! A red flag like that is delivered to you immediately you’ve served him one way or the other.
- His phone is like hacking an FBI confidential List.
You can’t breathe when his phone is near, why? he makes sure you are aware that his phone contains only NASA generated codes. Whenever you go out on a date with him or if you are at his place, his phone is face-down. You either do not know his password or he changes it every week. You better pack your heart and leave that Liar, this is sign for married with 4 kids and a crazy wife. There’s no way you aren’t thinking about it, I can’t be the only one seeing married man signs here. How can you not be paranoid when your man’s phone is always on airplane mode? It’s either he’s good at deceiving you, or you are making it easy for him to place you on a foolery allowance, as you share the same brain with Larry in SpongeBob Square Pants. It’s exhausting, sis, even for me a baddie.
- Feigning memory loss to things that is important to you, like your birthday and Anniversary.
Hitting the ball on the head when he embarrasses you in front of his friend by not remembering when and where you guys met. The way he stutters when he introduces you to his friends or family. “Erm! uhh… this is Maggie and we are in a cool understanding”. Miss me with that flat ass bullshit please, what does that mean? He remembers when Arsenal won a cup last but can’t remember your birthday? And you are still there? Either its voodoo or you are plain stupid. How can you not see that he’s not into you? Anyways, read and understand this. I hope you let him go, for your own good and sanity. And if you are stuck in the corner of your tiny room giving him chances as if they come cheap, then you deserve an exorcism. May the Lord be with you on this journey of foolery you have decided to embark on.
- Emotional Absence
In your worst days, he’s out with the boys or maybe his main girlfriend and you are just the side piece.* somersaults in peace of mind*, sorry the laugh dears. He doesn’t open up to you about his plans or worries. He hates commitment but has the same barber for over 8 years. Who is he deceiving? You, my darling lover girl. His idea of love and care is when he takes you out for ice cream and allows you to pick your own flavor or makes you pay for it like you always do. Well done sis, you found yourself a Goat. And not even the cute kind.
- In all this drama, somehow you find yourself making excuses for him.
How and why? Are you his manager? Or should I say PR manager. You are doing damage control for a badly behaved man? * shocked in the 7 wonders of the world* When your friends condemn his actions, you’d respond with “He was in a bad mood that day”, “He’s not ghosting me, his battery is low”. His battery is low for 3 weeks? We need to send you a rescue team from Russia. You need help. I can’t believe you are doing emotional gymnastics just to justify a badly behaved man with bare minimum actions. We need to crown you with a medal. * Shrugs in amazement * you need to leave that man, he isn’t worth it. It’s either you are digging for something more than love or you are just blinded with desperation. Love should not be that complicated.
- He ghosts you at the slightest chance he gets, at this point, you are a haunted house.
He’ll show up after 2 weeks to tell you he was busy. Jay Z was found shaking. Elon Musk couldn’t be busier even if he tried. Who is bro trying to fool? He disappears like a spirit and reappears like a cockroach when the lights go off. He’s not a mystery, he’s a menace. Discard that stress sis.
7. He treats you worse than an option.
Prioritizes everything but you. His availability to you is only at his convenience. He messages you only at night. He’s either a wizard or you are his Plan Z and a backup data network to him. He leaves all the decision making to you. The dates and acts of service only come from you. He puts in zero effort and gets 100 percent outputs. You are just pampering a grown child. Let that kid go. You deserve grown love, not grown boys with baby energy.
If you are in a relationship where you wake up by 12am to ask yourself what exactly you are doing, or searching on Google at 1am to know if he loves you, then you are aware of the trash you picked up as a boyfriend. Dump that trash and move on. The weight of the world is too heavy to keep trash at home.
You don’t have to beg for love or be loved. You can’t teach a man how to love you. You ignore the Tall Dark and Handsome men who genuinely care for you just so you can dump yourself into the arms of a light skinned man with lips licking abilities that treats you like a can of corn. In this economy, a can of corn is actually expensive, so you are worth something. winks
Let that trash be taken out by someone else. Breathe in and out and give yourself respect. How do you let someone match you up like that? Girl, please. Pick up the little respect you have and walk into Chicken Republic and order a plate of jollof rice, send me the bill.
There’s a guy out there who will love you, and if there isn’t? Just know you aren’t part of God’s favorite to ever be loved by a man. Just breathe in, out and pray. At the end of the day,” Peace of mind is better than begging for crumbs. You are the full package, Stop settling for the free trial version of a man”.
